I’ve been thinking a lot about space recently. Not in the outer space sense, but headspace. I’ve got a lot of stuff on the go and I’m finding downtime at a bit of a premium. Between the wedding and our upcoming move (we bought a house last week!), a lot of very important things need to be done in relatively short time. This requires me to stay on top of a lot of little moving pieces to ensure stuff doesn’t slip through the cracks.
The one thing, however, that I’m finding huge importance in is making space for more important things, like relationships. Two weeks ago, my fiancee and I were running ourselves ragged as we worked to close a deal on the purchase of the house. In short order, our week involved scheduling a viewing of a house that had been on the market for about 12-hours, setting up meetings with the bank, a home inspector, a basement expert, and our realtor to set up and fulfill conditions on our offer. This required three separate trips out of town, which takes us away from our normal routine.
Last week, my fiancee suggested we take a pause from the “work” required at home, and instead for us to enjoy some downtime together. It amounted to little more than dinner and couch time in front of Netflix, but it was exactly what we needed. We needed to make space for us to be a couple (rather than domestic partners). In one evening, I felt closer to my fiancee than I had in the better part of two weeks.
It reminded me why it’s important to ensure quality time together. We might live together, eat together, and sleep in the same bed, but that doesn’t mean we are taking time to be together, present in the moment. There is a time and place for work, but it’s important to make time and space for more important things, too.